My degree may be in Criminal Justice, however it led me through a career path that was essentially connected to clients that experienced mental health challenges. AS the eldest of 4 siblings, looking out for others has always been my disposition, and being a blessing to others was my main purpose throughout my career.

 

I was positioned in a challenging role that involved different experiences with mental health on multiple levels.  The occasion that stands out most involved a staff member of mine who I also consider to be a dear friend.  She called me one evening during a bad storm but I missed her call.  When I saw her at work the next day, she told me that she tried to reach me the previous night but she didn't leave a message. 

 

WE agreed to talk later on that evening but neither of us got around to it.  I set aside a few minutes to meet with her the following morning.  That moment never came because she committed suicide the night before. Although we were close friends, I had no idea that she was facing mental health challenges. 

 

After discovering this devastating news, I was forced to "hold it together" so that I could make all of the proper notifications and console my other staff members. Then, as a single mom, I had to go home and "hold it together" for my children.

 

The demands of my life and my job mandated psychological suppression and I had no idea util years later when I went on interview for another promotion.  After weeks of studying, mock interviews and preparations, I felt that I was prepared so I walked into that interview with confidence!  The panel asked me to describe steps that I had to take to contain an emergency situation in my supervisory capacity. I immediately thought of my friend and had a breakdown right in front of the panel.

 

Due to the stigma attached to mental health, especially in the African American Community, I had never considered my own mental health! As mental health challenges are on the rise, I wanted to design a bracelet that could serve as a "silent voice" for those that are experiencing challenges, having a disconnected day or may just need a hug or prayer. 

 

Sometimes people can't find the words to let others know that they are going through something.  Hopefully these bracelets will be a blessing to many women who are personally experiencing a mental health challenge or who may have a child or spouse going through these challenges. 

 

As I think about what happened with Simone Biles and seeing what she went through I want my message to be that "It's ok to NOT be ok!" 

 

Wearing this bracelet says "your words of encouragement are appreciated" "I'm having a challenging day, handle with sensitivity"

 

It's a reminder that you should:

1) never give up hope

2) self-love is priority

3) YOU hold the key to your happiness and

4) You are Tenacious and Resilient. 

 

I wish that my friend had a silent voice.  A portion of the proceeds from this bracelet will be donated to The Suicide awareness foundation in her name